30 tips to make sure your first night isn't your last
It doesn't matter if you're shy or particularly outgoing: spend the night for the first time with new partner is always a source of joy and, at the same time, a bit of anxiety and nervousness. Having a relationship with someone is an important moment whatever the circumstance. In fact, whether you are looking for a real love story or that you want a night of pure passion, you should keep in mind some tips so that that evening goes in the best way.
Prepare well
Perfect hair removal
It is certainly not by the state of waxing that a woman is judged. However, for the first night of passion with your partner it is always better to pay attention to all the details and these also include a perfect hair removal, from the armpits to the legs, groin - of course - included.
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A cosmetic bag ready if you go to his house
If you ever go to sleep at his house, always carry a small "emergency" kit with you: make-up remover wipes to avoid "panda eyes" when you wake up and a toothbrush in the morning. Don't forget a perfume sample, deodorant wipes and even tampons or sanitary napkins. You never know!
Anticipating an unpleasant move
Imagine that the evening is going badly and you want to go home when the last subway has already passed ... A few euros and a taxi number are a must, so you can be home quickly and safely.
The lingerie that ensures
There is no need to take out the sequined thong and the black and red lace-up bra. Something sober and chic will suffice! Obviously we forget the unattractive lingerie, perhaps the one with the clearly visible elastic. The solution lies in the middle way.
Always keep in mind that ...
You can say no!
You ignited his desire shamelessly and effortlessly, but now, when it's time to act, aren't you too sure you want it? Don't force yourself. You have the right and the duty to leave. It's never too late.
He's just as stressed out as I am
Or even more. We often forget that there are two of us in a relationship and we mistakenly think that we will be judged, while on the other side we feel exactly the same fears. Especially since there is still a lot of pressure on men to make the relationship satisfactory for the partner.
The first time is often embarrassing
So let's not overdo it if it's not the chemistry right away. The perfect attunement of one body to another often requires some adjustment. All of this is by no means a harbinger of what awaits us in the future. C "is always a first time for everything.
We too can call back!
Let's at least try to be honest with ourselves. We have to take responsibility for what we do and what we want. So a great love story doesn't always follow after a night of fire.
If he doesn't call back the next day, don't pretend to be a victim: there were two consenting adults the night before and it's also the woman who can make the first move, calling him back. It's up to you to decide if it's worth it. or less.
Pleasure is a right
Even if it was just one night of passion, you absolutely mustn't feel "dirty" or guilty the next day. Having fun and having uncomplicated pleasure is not a crime and if it has made you happy, then there is nothing wrong with it!
Things to do
Cover safety
Behind his gruff gaze, a man is a vulnerable being who needs reassurance. Compliment him on his physique, show him that his caresses are pleasant, smell his perfume with pleasure and be kind, speak as softly as possible.
Express your wish
You want? He can't guess. If you feel that the desire is mutual, tell him and make him understand it with looks and a few gestures.
Increase his desire
Just a few hours before the appointment, send him messages that increase his desire to see you. When you are together, he plays with gestures, touches and little kisses, just to get used to the contact of one and the other.
Forget about your complexes
Stop focusing on what you think are your flaws. Men are unanimous: in the heat of the moment, they pay no attention to it. On the other hand, they regret that these details inhibit us. A woman who feels good about herself will also be much more comfortable in bed ... And it's all in our heads. Learn to love yourself a little and others they will follow you.
Always be reasonable
Talk about protection - that is, the condom - without taboos, including it in your love encounter. Invent your coded language if the word bothers you: anything so that, however, its importance is considered despite being carried away by passion. If some think her pose breaks the rhythm, then they turn this moment into an extension of foreplay. It is a win-win situation.
What not to do on the first night
Talk about your ex
Who could bear to be compared to another? Neither you nor him. So spare him the talk about how your former partner behaved or how much harm he did to you. The lack of discretion suggests that you will be just as chatty about him once you are gone or that you are still thinking about something else.
Ask a myriad of questions
Comments have no place in such an intimate moment. Let's forget about the famous "What are you thinking about?"in the fateful moment. Because usually you don't think about anything. The man enjoys the moment and doesn't want to dissect every gesture and every sigh." So, do the same: melt in his arms and sigh with pleasure.
Drink to be more uninhibited
Big mistake ... Giving too much space to the so-called "liquid courage" can lead you to be out of control and not even remember the night of passion. Furthermore, it is never good to no longer be in command of your actions, especially if you are in the company of a person you have not known for a long time.
Be authoritarian
'Not like that! Not like that!"Anyone would run away from such a partner, who wants everything to perfection even every aspect of sexual intercourse. A little sweetness in a world of bullies, has never hurt anyone ...
Accept everything
Just as it is not advisable to be too authoritarian on the first night with a new partner, in the same way we must not accept everything he asks of us. If your partner would like to do something you are not comfortable with, tell them and don't force yourself.
The golden rules
Feeling beautiful and seductive
We must not skimp on the effort: we wear a dress that enhances us and in which we feel beautiful and seductive. Being comfortable with yourself is the first step to appear radiant even in the eyes of others.
Keep the mystery alive
There is no need to go through the list of all your achievements, tell him about your family problems, and tell him your worries at work. Knowing how to make yourself a little inaccessible, even if physically you are getting closer. It is this hot-cold paradox that will accentuate the harmony of your budding relationship and make your partner want to know more about you.
Weaknesses become strengths
A man likes to be called upon to protect someone else: don't hesitate to reveal to him some of your well-chosen weaknesses such as shyness, modesty and even your curves.
Do not judge too quickly
He's stunned, clumsy, he picked the wrong restaurant ... He's even more nervous than you. If he is not judged or made to feel out of place, he will very quickly feel more comfortable.
It doesn't have to end all that night
Your first time can be the beginning of a love story and a couple. Likewise, it could only involve the sexual plane without considering the consequences. The important thing is to be clear and honest with yourself and with each other, as well as feeling free in your own head, without guilt. Everyone must assume their responsibilities according to the circumstances.
The same in your home ...
Always have condoms
Just as you have to ask him if he has a condom if you go to his house, you should also have a spare in case of need. Condoms remain, to this day, the only way to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases and there is no excuse not to use them. So, if he didn't think about it, you did.
Clean bedding
The least we can do is arrange the scented, stain-free sheets. Other elements to create the atmosphere will not hurt, such as a soft light or a few candles and, if you like, some background music.
Put in order
If your new partner comes to your house, it's not just the bed that needs to look flawless. It is a good practice to put away the clothes hanging on the door, take down the garbage cans and fix the bathroom.
