5 things a woman must never forget ... according to a man!
The truth is, sometimes we need a kick. We ask for a comparison with friends, we chat with cousins, brothers, various relatives but nothing: when we fossilize on something, we can hardly surpass it. We really need that shock, to change our point of view, to open our minds or to simply realize that there are so many directions in which we can move our journey. We choose them, nobody else. We asked ourselves how a man sees it, what would he recommend. Maybe he might have an interesting point of view! We chose an exceptional one, one who tried to be a woman for a while "and who decided to write a novel," Tu che capisci ", in which he highlights this whole world. His name is Yuri Sterrore, in Gordon art
Here, then, are 5 things a woman must NEVER forget!
1) Don't look for a man to feel complete
“Not to mention that we men, when we meet a woman who needs a relationship to feel complete, we run away. The fact is that you make us feel used, like stopgaps. ". Ale, the novel's protagonist, tells us and we can only agree with him. The point is one: how can we feel complete by entrusting the responsibility for this task to another? It seems evident that the basic dynamic is unbalanced and heavy, both for us and for the other. We must learn to complete ourselves, but also never to complete ourselves, because basically this is the final goal, the beauty lies in the voyage
2) Get up and smile, always
From the novel we read: "There is no end to the Worst, but we always have an escape. Let's remember. There will be many occasions when you will believe you can't make it, that you will end up crushed, that you will not survive ... All you have to do is get up and smile.".
It is useless to lock yourself up in a castle of pity and tears or to attribute to another the possibility of recovering from a bad blow. You have to get up, always, and smile again, always. We are changeable, nature gave it to us, our cells evolve day by day. How can we think that a situation is not?
3) 100% loved ones
Where do we find this strength? Lawful question. But Ale, the novel's protagonist, explains it to us: 'Love each other. I'll be clear, lucid and concise: you have to love each other one hundred percent and without exception, because if you love each other only twenty percent you will find someone who will love you thirty percent and it will seem like a mess to you, you will scream: "Oh my god but that's a lot !!" and yet it is not even half of what is needed. If you love each other one hundred percent, then yes, you will find a real man, one who will go out of his way to show you that, despite everything, you are worth even more. ".
Nothing is more powerful, formative, revolutionary than "loving oneself. It is a thankless, certainly, complicated, expensive task: we must first know ourselves, then understand each other, then understand our defects, accept them and work on our strengths. Only in this way will we be able to able to approach events with a different, strong, ambitious, confident gaze, with a true woman's gaze.
4) You are not alone, there is always an invisible thread
"Women understand each other without speaking, as if they were tied by an invisible thread, and even if one is on the other side of the world, if it needs, the other perceives it. The most powerful things in the world are often invisible. ".
They tell us that we are envious, competitive, jealous, ambitious. VERY TRUE. But it is also true that we create indissoluble bonds, that cross borders, climb mountains, swim across the oceans, and intertwine so deeply that even with closed eyes we are able to perceive, understand, feel what our friends are experiencing. We are not alone, we are constantly moving along the line drawn by this invisible thread. Reason why canceling yourself out for another, for a man, and forgetting the important things in life like friends, is COMPLETELY WRONG!
5) Get it wrong, rather than not
If you really want to be wrong, do it for the right things, not to bow to a man's existence. "Better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for what you are not. Dare to follow your instincts, do it all the way. There is no middle ground, there is no: "I love you, but I don't like this thing about you" ... If you don't love me one hundred percent, then you don't love me. ".
We don't have to give alms and wait for a pinch of love to be given to us. If it comes, despite our mistakes, our forgetfulness, our distractions, it comes because we are loved for who we are. Only this is true love, settling and smoothing aside. One cannot expect perfection, but it is better to have lived a moment than to have given up on it to please the other. "To be wrong is human", we didn't say it.
