The betrayal? Strengthen the couple

The starting point to talk about the betrayal in today's couples is given by the new film by Cameron Diaz, The Other Woman and its revelations: “Nobody is faithful. We are human beings, we are complex, we cannot live without scratches, it is impossible. Betrayals can happen, you need to be aware of them and move on ".

But some research shows that not only today people are more willing to accept and forgive any betrayal - which occurs for 56% of married men and 34% of women - but that, once the inevitable initial trauma has been overcome, the couple it appears strengthened, more united and revitalized.

Betrayal is not considered a sign of a relationship that no longer works, but, on the contrary, it would be a symptom of a too symbiotic relationship, this is the hypothesis of Esther Perel, a Belgian-American psychotherapist in L'Intelligence érotique: faire vivre le desir dans le couple. According to the expert, the idea of ​​a perfect relationship today is one in which there is a total fusion with the partner, who becomes one's best friend to whom you think you can tell everything. The traitor, then, is a basically monogamous person and happy as a couple, who, however, one day feels the need to break - momentarily - the total symbiosis that has been created with the partner.

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