PAINFUL PENETRATION: WHAT TO DO? - LOVE-E-PSYCHOLOGY

What to do in case of painful penetration?

The pain of first intercourse

When a woman experiences intense pain at the moment of penetration, she is said to be suffering from dyspareunia. Very often the origin of this pain is psychological, especially when it comes to the first sexual experiences (fear of not being up to it, fear of feeling pain the first time). The anguish of the first sexual intercourse can cause a contraction of the vagina , prevent good lubrication and thus make penetration difficult, if not impossible. In this case, there is only one solution: relax!

A useful help can be represented by the use of a lubricant; here are some tips in the video below to choose the right one.

Start by asking yourself a series of questions: Are you really ready to make love? Are you doing it with the right person? Does he make you comfortable? If the answer is yes, move on to plan B: take the courage in both hands and Let yourself go gradually. Foreplay is an essential step not to be overlooked! Start gently, learn to uncover your bodies and let your desire rise ... and wait a bit before getting down to it! A little suspense doesn't hurt anyone and allows you to increase the excitement: by dint of teasing each other, you will end up wanting each other so much that you will quickly forget your little worries.

Infectious or organic dyspareunia

This is not the first time you have made love, and up until now you have never had any problems. But for some time now, penetration is very painful. If the causes of this dyspareunia are not psychological, it can be root. infectious. It may be that you have contracted a mycosis, cystitis, herpes or, if you have not used a condom, a sexually transmitted disease ... in this case, it is essential to consult the gynecologist for analysis. If you have a benign infection, you will be prescribed antibiotics.

Dyspareunia can also derive from a still poorly identified phenomenon called "vestibulitis": it is an "inflammation of the vestibule, that is, the part located inside the labia minora. Also in this case there is only one solution: go to the gynecologist, do the analyzes and localize the pain (inside or outside the vagina).

When dyspareunia hides a vaginismus

If any penetration seems physically impossible to you, if your vagina also contracts when you try to insert a tampon or when your gynecologist tries to visit you, you may have vaginismus. This disorder is manifested by an involuntary contraction of the muscles of the perineum and vagina. Even if your genital organs are normal, the vaginal orifice closes by reflex, thus preventing any type of penetration. In 90% of cases, the cause of vaginismus is psychological and can derive from trauma, fear. or even from the phobia of sexuality.

Vaginismus is not irreversible. There are therapies that can help you understand the origin of your trauma. These treatments will allow you to slowly regain possession of your body and sex, to start a normal sex life.