The sexual past of the partner: 5 very difficult things to accept
Sex is a very important part of a couple's life, and for this reason, when we discover details of our partner's sexual past, we could be disconcerted, disappointed and go mad with jealousy. Perversions, habits, pathologies: many aspects that could make you say enough, and that willy-nilly could make you have doubts and second thoughts. In these cases, you simply need to understand how an event or experience has affected your partner and think about whether you can live with their past.
Find out which aspects of your partner's sexual past should set you off an alarm bell, and if so what mitigating circumstances to give to your partner, starting from the fact that he or she may have made choices because having sex is good for you (not just for the body ... ), watch:
1. Paid sex
In the movie "Pretty Woman" Richard Gere falls in love with Julia Roberts, the woman he paid to have sex, and their love is still an emblem of pure romance today. In reality, things are less romantic and they are also very different (unfortunately). If you were to find out that your partner paid for sex, what would you do?
The matter is thorny: did he do it in his youth or while he was in a serious relationship? Did he look for paid company because he felt lonely and didn't want to get attached to anyone? Did he do it in a moment of superficiality? Maybe of goliardia? Did he just want to find out what it's like? Among these hypotheses certainly there are mitigating circumstances, but pay attention to yourself: are you sure you can tolerate a man who has chosen this experience? If the answer is affirmative, put a stone on it!
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2. Serial traitor
We are not talking here about escapades, like that of Stefano Accorsi in the "Last Kiss."; instead we are talking about serial cheating, or the kind of men who have never been able to be in a relationship without having sex with "another person. If you find that your partner has always cheated on you, how would you behave? What if he confesses to you? this aspect of his past, guaranteeing you that it is different with you?
Needless to say, everyone can change, but those who have always behaved in a way will hardly deviate from their habits, even if they have the person of their dreams next to them. Furthermore, it is statistically proven that whoever cheats once will probably continue to do so. Your partner's sense of achievement may not be appeased by your love, and your relationship may be losing out. Escape? It wouldn't be a bad idea, but it's better to tackle the issue first with two.
3. Swinger as needed
Curious as Tom Cruise, who sneaks into a "peculiar" party in "Eyes Wide Shut"? But if, in addition to curiosity, your boyfriend had actively participated in couple exchanges or orgies, how would you behave?
Such a confession might mean that he would still like to do it, and that of course he would like to do it with you by your side. If the thing intrigues you obviously this is not something that you should not forgive, on the contrary, but if on the contrary you think that sex in a couple must remain at home, and without any third or fourth subject, then be careful. The desire to continue practices of this kind could result in subterfuge and betrayal.
4. Former sex addict
Michael Fassbender in the movie Shame suffered from the same problem: sex addiction.
Here we are not talking about perversions or any sexual past, but about a psychological condition, which often requires psychiatric treatment (as well as for all new addictions). Precisely for this reason, finding out that your partner has suffered from this disease, and that he is still on the mend, could make you run away. The addiction that is nurtured towards sex is the same that can be nurtured towards drugs or alcohol; for this reason it is a difficult condition to manage and that can be frightening. Would you be able to accept to live sexuality in such a problematic way What is certain is that love overcomes even greater obstacles!
5. Pornographic actor (homemade)
No ambitions as an erotic director, but only a homemade porno film, to dissolve the monotony with his previous girlfriend or to spread his fame as a "stallion". In addition, the film now roams the network, without the possibility of completely eliminating it. Couldn't you stand it? Here perhaps no one would blame you. It could be unacceptable for several reasons: because you don't like men who have this kind of perversion and because you are afraid, deep down, that he wants to do a second one, maybe with you.
Accept it or not? It depends; if he thinks it a terrible mistake, maybe. If he is proud of it, perhaps better make two calculations!
If you can get over the revelation of your partner's sexual past, all that's left is to give him a little punishment, how? Watch: