Faking an orgasm: advantages and disadvantages of this "common" practice
Who does not remember the famous scene from the film "Harry, meet Sally ", in which Meg Ryan simulates a phenomenal orgasm in a restaurant, to prove to her friend that all women are good at "pretending"? What if your partner finds out that you are pretending too? And above all, what would happen if he found out that in reality he cannot make you enjoy as much as you would like and would like? So that's why faking orgasm can sometimes be beneficial (if you promise us it won't become a habit, sure). And if you need some advice to always make sure you get there, check out:
1. Helping the partner's self-esteem
The female orgasm often seems like an unattainable peak studded with doubts and false myths. Used sparingly, simulation would be anything but an enemy to be fought under the sheets. It would almost seem that it is at the origin of real benefits for the couple as for some men making sure that their partner reaches orgasm is extreme satisfaction, the symbol of the strength of their virility.Pretending an orgasm can allow you to enter a "virtuous" circle: the "man is reassured about his sexual performance and frees himself from the fear of disappointment, which can always inhibit the relationship and complicate things, so he adopts a" more confident and daring, conducive to the pleasure of his partner.
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2. Create an exciting and hotter climate
It can happen that faking an orgasm increases the desire for him, but also for us women. While the pleasure is simulated, in fact, it can happen that listening to the libido increases and from fiction you pass to reality. Female pleasure is deeply linked to imagination and often feeds on fictions and mental states. Simulation is one of these staging that could increase a woman's arousal by facilitating the arrival of real orgasm!Loading ...
3. Strengthen the understanding in the couple
Even if every now and then pretending seems like an act of little honesty towards the partner, in the case in which it is not a habit this staging could also strengthen the spirit of the couple. In fact, the greater confidence acquired by the man regarding his sexual performance and the feeling that the woman is able to let herself go with him, create a climate of greater understanding and security. But be careful ... there are cons and you have to deal with them!Loading ...
Faking an orgasm: the cons
What is the limit between "benign" and "problematic" simulation? Well-being is the best barometer: as long as the simulation only happens sometimes and doesn't prevent both partners from accessing true pleasure, don't worry! However, when "simulation" rhymes with "frustration", the first thing to do is to ask yourself what are the reasons that lead to resorting to this strategy. At first, it is preferable to start working on yourself, with the help of a psychotherapist in case of anorgasmia, or of a sexologist in case of temporary anorgasmia. The goal? Understanding the root causes of malaise, be it personal or relational.
Avoid venturing into destabilizing revelations with your partner. Although in good faith, to recover some transparency in your relationship, too many delicate elements come into play in this discussion to be able to improvise.
In short: pretend ok, but understanding where and when there is a limit is fundamental!
To be sure that pretending an orgasm does not become an "unhealthy habit, you must first learn about your body and its mechanisms of pleasure. How experienced are you in the field? Find out with this test!