How to leave someone you love (and who doesn't make you feel good)
Letting go is difficult but it is even more difficult to let go, especially when the person to get away from is someone we love and with whom we have shared a piece of the journey, including tears and smiles.
There comes a certain point, however, when it is necessary to make a decision, put the good aside and focus on ourselves.
- · 1. Love is eternal until it is one way
- · 2. Learn to be alone
- · 3. Ask for help
- · 4. You are enough
Erich Segal, author of the 1970 book Love Story, theorizes that "loving means never having to say I'm sorry". We do not know if it is true, but certainly in love, sorrow is natural, especially when, for one reason or another, one is forced to make a drastic choice such as, for example, that of ending a relationship.
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1. Love is eternal until it is one wayLoading ...
You have talked about it several times and yet you have not been able to find the square.
It may happen that love becomes one-way, you would give up everything for the other person while she always puts herself first, always making herself the one and only priority.
Life as a couple is obviously made of balances but the ups and downs are normal in which one of you gasps and the other must do everything possible to keep both of them afloat: no one saves himself alone and it is not worth wasting time with those. you already know it won't save you.
2. Learn to be aloneLoading ...
Being alone is not dramatic, only that at first it could turn out to be more complex than expected, given that, for a long time, we have been used to being two.
You will have to do everything possible to remember how you were before even if, after a breakup, only the wonderful memories reappear, those of you at the sea who are desperately looking for the right light for a selfie. The after, the one in which you fought over a nonsense because he didn't like the caption, nobody remembers it.
3. Ask for helpLoading ...
There are situations in which it is really necessary to ask those around us for a hand. Write to your parents and organize a dinner, say yes to those colleagues who always ask you to go out with them for an aperitif and throw yourself. Start doing an activity that you would never have thought of before: yoga, playing an instrument, signing up for a cooking class...
No man, or woman, is an "island. At first it will be difficult, but then you will learn the importance of having new points of reference."
4. You are enoughLoading ...
This is perhaps the most difficult thing ever, learning to be enough. Don't close yourself in the past and use this time to get to know yourself and to become stronger.
Only in this way will you be ready for a new, and even more splendid, adventure.
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