How to forget an ex: 7 tips for getting back to life after the end of a relationship
It's over: whether your relationship ended by mutual agreement or suddenly, whether it ended well looking into each other's eyes and choosing to remain friends, or whether it ended very badly perhaps with a betrayal, breaking up is never easy, especially if you are not. you, between the two, the one super convinced that closing is really the best choice for you. Probably within a few months you will realize that the one you bet on was not the right partner for you: but until then pain, suffering, confusion are mixed with the inevitable desire to reconnect with your ex. And that's exactly what you don't have to do.
As you said? Remain friends? It may be but certainly not right away! At the end of a story there are so many reasons not to keep in touch with your ex, the first of which is undoubtedly that you need to focus on yourself!
Goal: To forget about your ex
It seems easy to say, but nostalgia is always around the corner. Forgetting the person with whom you have made a thousand projects and shared so many good times is not easy. There is also the not too veiled risk of idealizing it and putting aside all those defects that periodically infuriated you when you were together. Forgetting your ex with these seven tips will not only be easier but also faster: we will go through the different moments of anger, pain and tears together until your complete rebirth. Then, at what point if you still feel like you can also rediscover a relationship of affection and friendship with your ex, but only when you are really out of this story. Are you ready? Street!
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Distance: absolutely avoid seeing that man
If it's really over this time, let's not fool ourselves. Seeing your ex will only have the function of making the moment you realize you have forgotten him much slower. Not seeing him only means not making an appointment but also avoiding going to places where your ex usually goes (come on you know them!). Remember that meeting him means taking a step back every time and erasing all the small progress you will make on a regular basis. His presence distresses and depresses you, and also prevents you from looking forward and living your new life. If you meet him casually, limit yourself to a quick hello, don't ask personal questions so I don't have to spend hours mulling over his answers but just go on your way. If, on the other hand, you and your ex find yourself living a situation that forces you to see each other practically every day if you really want to forget it, you have to change this situation, even at the cost of changing jobs, or cities. Your life and your well-being is more important than the old plans!
No contact: everything is valid, text messages, emails, social networks and even whatsapp
Not seeing it is useless if you don't stop feeling it. Never means never. Social networks make this particularly difficult by constantly feeding you new friendships and images of the evenings without you of your ex. You don't need all of this! If the idea of completely cutting the bridges scares you, think that it is a temporary stratagem. When this story doesn't hurt you anymore, your ex may even return to the circle of your virtual friendships but now we have an ambitious goal: DI-MEN-TI-CAR-LO!
Therefore, no calls, no messages, no SMS, no contacts on social networks or from any app: the goal is not to disappear, to be mysterious or to make them miss you. At the center is you, your pain for the end of the relationship and your desire to move forward (which for now is in short supply, but it will come!). Ask your friends for help too, make sure you hang out with mutual friends when he's not around, avoid talking about him and make sure no one tells you about your ex. You are no longer a couple: say it around! Stop following him on all social networks: if you have too many virtual friendships in common on Facebook and Instagram, take the opportunity to give yourself a nice detox period from social networks and dedicate yourself to real life. You can also block him on the phone for a while: if you block his contact you will be sure that it is not him when your phone rings. It seems like a small thing but you knew how much it helps!
How to cut memories too
If you have a thousand things around that make you think of him, it becomes difficult to forget him: so take all the objects, gifts and personal effects and anything else that reminds you of him and throw them away. Okay, throwing it all away may seem like an extreme decision, and you might as well give your ex back small everyday items he left behind. If the problem is small gifts, photographs or letters, and if you don't even want to hear about throwing it all away, keep everything in a box and promise not to open this box until you are well and reviewing those things will make you smile. with tenderness, do not cry desperately! Removing all the objects of the past from your sight is also a small symbolic ritual that starts a new course in your life: from now on you look ahead!
Don't pretend you're okay right away
There is no point in disguising your true feelings and throwing yourself into the wild nightlife by pretending to have forgotten your ex in a flash. The feelings would come back to light at the first opportunity and you would find yourself suffering like the very first times. Overcoming this pain means first of all looking at it in the face and living it when you need it, crying if you feel like doing it, letting off steam with a friend if you need to rationalize what happened. After that everything will be easier but now give yourself all the time you need. Don't isolate yourself in the meantime - having your family and friends who you know well around you will help you feel loved. You can always count on them: a hug in some cases works wonders!
Take up your time
If you have a lot of free time during the day, it's easier to let go of memories and think about your ex. To forget faster, fill your agenda with commitments. Stimulate your imagination by engaging in new experiences. If you don't feel ready to return to social life and don't want to go out and have fun dedicated to a relaxing activity, find a new hobby or sport that recharges you and makes you feel fit. Set yourself a short goal, to be achieved in a month or two: it can be learning a new language or volunteering or discovering all the benefits of yoga on your body. It all depends on what you like and want to do!
New life, new look
Be beautiful, indeed beautiful. A little shopping with friends to cheer you up, a new haircut to welcome your new life and then take care of yourself every day, creams, beauty masks, well-groomed make-up. Seeing yourself well will make you feel better. Loving yourself will help you focus on yourself and heal your wounds. Walk out of the house with your head held high and enjoy that sense of freedom you thought you lost. There is a very important person who needs all your love: and it's you!
Nail drives away nail: it almost always works
Don't feel ready for a new story? It's normal, but no one asks you to get engaged now. What you need is a little lightness so if you want to hang out with someone or meet new people, do it without problems. Because having a casual meeting rewards your self-esteem, makes you feel beautiful and wanted, and inevitably also makes you stop idealizing your ex. Even sleeping with someone else can help you because it rekindles new emotions in you and creates new good memories: provided, however, that you do not believe that you have immediately found the man of your dreams, obviously be disappointed and desperately search for your ex!
