How age-related sexual desire changes
Sexual capacity in men and women evolves over the course of life. Sexual desire changes, as do habits, preferences and needs.
However, the partners do not always accept these transformations kindly, on the contrary, the man may be led to believe that he has problems, since the "performances are no longer what they used to be" and the woman may think she no longer likes her. man: obviously these fears are unfounded!
Above all, female sexuality evolves differently from male sexuality. Not taking this difference into account can cause misunderstandings and problems with sexual harmony and relationships. And this even if you know the best positions to promote female orgasm ...
Midlife crisis: how sex and desire change in men
Males reach the peak of their sexuality around 17 - 18 years, at that age sex occupies their mind almost constantly, while at the end of their twenties and over thirty the sexual desire is less pressing, however their talents are still remarkable.
But it is, above all, from the age of forty that man, in general, begins to feel important and progressive changes in sexuality: erotic thoughts and fantasies decrease, more stimulation is needed to achieve an erection, the need decreases. of ejaculating, orgasms are less intense, the refractory period, or the period of time during which you cannot have a new orgasm, is lengthened.
These changes often cause anxiety, insecurity and frustration and many men, in an attempt to protect themselves, can progressively limit sexual activity, or, they can seek out young and attractive women, in order to obtain "confirmation" and thus have the illusory feeling that time can stop.
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The sexual rebirth of women: how desire changes according to age
And what happens to us instead? Just the opposite! We women show less interest in sex during adolescence, and then gradually gain more and more confidence and sensitivity, reaching our sexual maturity between the ages of thirty-five and forty.
Unlike what happens to men, a woman's age does not necessarily affect the orgasmic capacity, which remains preserved even after menopause. It is therefore necessary to abandon the mistaken belief that a woman with menopause must say goodbye to sex! Of course, he must say "goodbye" to reproduction, but absolutely not to sexual pleasure! Indeed, if the woman has been sexually active, she can even witness an increase in her desire during this period of life, for several reasons: greater self-esteem and self-confidence, the impossibility of an unwanted pregnancy, the freedom it gives having children already autonomous ... No inhibitions, therefore, in guiding your man to explore positions like these:
Sex and desire: advantages and disadvantages of the age difference in a couple
Once these differences have been ascertained, it is easy to understand the temptation of mature people to mate with much younger partners. From a sexual point of view, women can feel more satisfied by a young man who, thanks to his age, is eager and vigorous, while the long-lived man feels more revitalized, invigorated and reassured than the lower sexual performance of a young woman.
But if sexual motivation predominantly underpins the choices of mature people, on the other hand, a more psychological motivation underlies the choices of younger partners. In fact, women can find a mature man reassuring, a guarantee of protection and stability; and, the young man, contrary to the past, today has no qualms about dating an older woman. This is favored by the fact that the woman has increased her bargaining power in society, consequently falling in love with the man has extended from the "princess" to the "queen". But, if from a sexual point of view there may not be any hitch, from a relational point of view problems can arise over time: for example when one partner wants a child and the other does not, because they are obviously in different stages of life. Then the age difference, from being stimulating at the beginning, can be limiting, and can hinder the realization of common projects and dreams.
