People change: will it be true or is it just an illusion?
At the base of the quarrels with friends and especially with the partner there is the will that our loved ones correct their defects. But is it really possible that someone changes? And that someone changes for us? only a few times leads to the desired result Watch this video and discover the best way to face a couple crisis and make the right choice about your future!
When and why people change: change, the word that is scariest
Everything around us changes over the course of life. And even within us it is normal for things to change and transform themselves. As the Buddha always said, "the only constant in life is change." Our body changes with the passage of time and this change is visible to all. What is less evident is the inner change, because as we grow up ideas change and so do many beliefs. Maybe you have happened to hang out intimately with someone for a period and have a lot in common, then you lost sight of each other and finding yourself several years later you found yourself in front of a completely different person, a stranger: in life, you change! Change is often scary because change brings with it a loss of certainties and habits and often also of things we love and to which we are linked.
However, changing often can be fundamental and lead to feeling better than we could ever have imagined. Change must be accepted in any case, many popular sayings believe that people do not change. How many times have you told someone, I'm sorry I'm like that. Or you repeated the phrase "who is born round does not die square". In reality, people who don't change don't want to change. If an individual is convinced that a change will be profitable and important for his life and for those he loves, he will not hesitate for a moment to change. In fact, those who do not change are fine as and where they are.
Whoever is motivated to change, rest assured, will change. On the other hand, those who appear hesitant to you or declare themselves unable to change will never change.
People who change and those who do not change: analysis of differences
Many people want to change. And many of these often talk about it. But how many really change? How many manage to transform their dissatisfaction into a new reality? Some individuals need help to cope with change, whether it is the help of a friend or a psychotherapist little changes. Other individuals are prone to changes both to external ones and to those that affect their individuality, they usually question themselves and try to have different and less predictable behaviors.There are people who change by personal choice and people who change only after an either or or of the partner or another individual.Finally, there are people who do not change under any circumstances even if faced with an ultimatum and pursue in their behavior. These people belong to that category of men and women who, not wanting to change, will not change. On the other hand, those who recognize their own mistake or a gap in their character are already a step forward on the road to change! How then to recognize a person who will change from one who will not? It seems that at the base of every change there are three essential components in the individual, will, capacity and availability. By continuing to read this article you will discover in detail what these three aspects consist of and how they manifest themselves!
Three requirements of every change: if there are these then people change!
The first requirement that a person seeking change has must be the will to change. Those who change must believe in change and must consider the act of changing as a thing of great importance for their life. Being motivated to change is the first requirement to face this new path with your head held high. The second fundamental aspect of those who are about to change is the confidence in the choice they have made or are about to make. A moment of reflection is essential to observe the situation objectively and choose the path to take. It is essential that the individual understands that he has the skills necessary for change: in the event of indecision or lack of self-esteem in this respect, psychotherapy can prove to be the winning weapon to regain self-esteem and security. A final requirement not to be underestimated is availability. Availability, in fact, has to do with relative priorities: one must be willing to change and above all not have thoughts and doubts about the need to implement it immediately. It's not a I want to change this one day or another but it's I want to change this now. If you continue to wait for the right moment to change, that right moment will probably never come. On this aspect too, psychotherapy can prove useful in understanding the need for action.
