5 myths about civil marriage
Many mistakenly think that a marriage made in a civil ceremony and not in a church destroys all that is beautiful on the day of the big "yes": if there is love, there is nothing that can kill romance.
Furthermore, both in civil and religious marriage, there are several elements in common ...
- · 1. "The civil ceremony is sterile, it doesn't even look like a marriage"
- · 2. "The rooms where you get married are always aseptic"
- · 3. "Witnesses are useless"
- · 4. "Civil rites are all the same"
- · 5. "I don't want a person who doesn't know us to celebrate the wedding"
Many women, since childhood, have in mind what the best time of their life will be like and yet, there are an "infinity of variables at play."
A civil marriage, for example, has nothing to envy to that celebrated in church!
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1. "The civil ceremony is sterile, it doesn't even look like a marriage"
The civil ceremony gives a lot of freedom to the spouses and thus allows you to choose any passages to read or songs to be proposed during the ceremony. You can read letters written by the spouses, excerpts from books that have been important, scenes from films that have meant something for the people who have decided to get married: one is spoiled for choice.
2. "The rooms where you get married are always aseptic"
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The rooms can be embellished, as can the pews in the church. In addition to this, it is not necessary to get married in a closed room and it is possible to take vows even outdoors, for example, by the sea.
If the religious rite must take place in a consecrated place, the same obviously does not apply to a civil ceremony: this is why in Italy more and more beaches are gearing up to keep up with the wishes of newlyweds.
3. "Witnesses are useless"
Witnesses are as important in the civil ceremony as in the religious one. Generally one is needed on each side, and only two will endorse the deed, but it is very common for there to be more, based on the agreements made previously with the officiant. The important thing is that the chosen witnesses have reached the age of majority.
4. "Civil rites are all the same"
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There will not be a priest's homily, but the civil rites are extremely versatile. Within this rite, for example, one can include the ceremony of light, where each of the two spouses holds a candle which will then be used to light a more large symbolizing the formation of a new family.
Another much appreciated ceremony is that of the sand. Groom and bride have jars with colored sand with different colors and, at the right moment, the two make the sand flow into a third larger vase: this will create a unique composition, just like the loving couple.
5."I don't want a person who doesn't know us to celebrate the wedding"
One of the strengths of the civil ceremony is that anyone, or almost anyone, can celebrate the wedding.
The mayor or a delegate of the municipality can officiate or, if you wish, a friend of yours can do it, as long as he knows he has to accept this responsibility with the utmost seriousness. The officiant must have Italian citizenship, be of age and, above all, must not be a direct relative of the spouses: brothers, children or parents of the future wife and husband, by law, cannot be officiators.
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