"I'm like this": 3 reasons why we must stop believing it now!
Very often to the question "but why are you doing this?", We are forced to confront this terrible sentence: "what can I do? I am like this". Not even if once created, we human beings, had to recite the same phrases forever, like Cicciobello eat and sleep: you pull the lever and he says "hey, but that's how I am".
We therefore deduce that criticism is not tolerated, there is no dialogue, there is no confrontation in front of this wall. The substance? I do not intend to change, and above all I do not intend to change for you and nobody can do anything about it.
This sentence hides in itself at least 3 reasons why it would be appropriate to stop believing in it, to stop submitting to this blackmail. Watch on video what it means to accept and adapt to the other:
1. Why emotional blackmail
Such a sentence is unbearably final. And this is because it puts us in front of a blackmail: either you change, or I don't care about anything, because I don't change. How unfair is it to put a wall in front of the possibility of questioning oneself? And how much of our life and personal growth do we want to share with those who are unable to compromise? This implicit out-out that "either we eat this soup, or we throw ourselves out the window" is nothing more than a childish, unripe and unreasonable way of dealing with all kinds of change. Is your man a temperamental child? On our side, in order to continue to maintain the relationship, we unconsciously believe we can tolerate such blackmail, and can meet the needs of others: but how much is it true? Compromises come in two, and if you really love compromise is necessary.
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2. Because adapting is not synonymous with weakness
Many believe that adapting, and therefore compromising, is synonymous with weakness: therefore the world would be black or white. Yet, since the world has existed, who has become extinct? Who has not been able to adapt.
It is not possible to generalize and believe that everything is always absolute. A practical example: if a person has food problems but does not stop eating incorrectly and justifies himself with these words "I do not want to change because I am like that", what do we think? That he is unable to accept his true weakness, to face it, to question himself and therefore to overcome it. The same is true in relationships.Personal growth is determined by adaptability: it is the possibilistic attitude in the face of a change in the conditions to which we are accustomed and the relative change of behavior that follows, while maintaining alignment with one's values, which makes us human and strong. .
3. Because we can all change
There is no "impossibility of changing, trivially" wanting is power ". So we cannot give in to this non-proactive blackmail. If he says that's the way it is, you tell him that it can be colì. Even if it is difficult to change your way of being, it is not impossible to try, take small steps and then find a way. Deciding not to make attempts, means deciding to be as you are, without any hope of evolving. But it is a personal decision, it is certainly not a divine will against which you are find disarmed No more excuses, dear friends: at this point if he is like that, you too are made as you are, so find yourself someone capable of understanding, talking and CHANGING, as you do.
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If you think about it, even tattoos can fit, although they are the only ones that can say, in principle, "I'm like that"!
